20 May 2010

Taking Time To Slow Down

Don't know if you ever take the time to look at some of the other blogs I follow over on the sidebar or not? Some of them are not genealogy. In fact they have to do with just slowing down.

Slowing down is really hard for me. One of my new year's "want to do's" for this year was learn to slow down, learn to appreciate the small things - my flowers, my grandkids, my husband. More counting blessings & less time as part of the rat race. I've always had a hard time with wanting to make other people happy. Pleasing other people, wanting others to like me, to want me around was almost an obsession. BUT when it goes to the point where it drags you down and causes you to be down, stressed and leads to discord in your own home, its time to stop.

Luckily for me, I have a loving husband who said "do what makes YOU happy", and stands beside my decision regardless of what anyone else thinks. So I've decided to simplify, back off on some activities, spend less time sitting at a keyboard, spending more time in the flowers, visiting with my daughter (my son is working in Canada for a while) and my grandsons. More time reading in front of the picture window or sitting on the patio... Keeping life simple and enjoying the life I have with Mark.

Needless to say this isn't something everyone has an interest in doing. I mean some people are just born to be part of the rat race. And I think they actually enjoy the pressure and stress that comes with that. I don't want off the merry go round, I'd just like to slow it down and enjoy the ride more...

So today is part of that stepping off the rat race course - we're going to go out and just wander, just enjoy -- The flowers here are spectacular - especially the iris... I think I've seen more Iris blooms this week than in my whole life. So I'm off to shop, enjoy the tea shop again and who knows maybe I'll even bring back a surprise for you!

Happy Researching

Karen

4 comments:

Barbara said...

Karen, I understand and actually said in one of my recent blogs that I was doing the same, but it hasn't happened yet! Since, I am the last to Follow You (per the photos), I might just go through all your past blogs when I get the chance, as I have Michigan ancestry. Nice to meet you, even tho it has been short!

Scottish Genealogist said...

Hi Karen, thanks for making me really think. I've been saying the same, same, same for about 3 years now, and things are no different to when they were then! When I worked part-time, I appreciated my family, friends, garden, The Cat, the cup of tea on the back-door-step on a sunny morning, but now I run around like a crazy thing 7 days a week and constantly check my diary and To Do List. I've been sucked back in and it's time to STOP! Jo :-)

Greta Koehl said...

I admire you for doing this. I've tried to do a bit of the same, but it isn't easy!

Tracy said...

Finding balance between obligations and pleasures is a difficult thing to do. However, I firmly believe it is a necessity for our mental and emotional well-being. Enjoy the stepping back as the obligations will still be there when you return.